Let Go of Anger with

The Sedona Method 

Feeling and showing anger at the right time, in the right degree, and in the right way helps us to get along well with others while setting necessary limits and boundaries so that we can create and live our best life.  Anger can also serve as a motivator to help propel us in the direction of our dreams.  However, anger that is excessive and/or out of place can lead us to take action that is not in our best interest.  In addition, suppressed anger can fester and can lead to a host of problems, such as poor health, dysfunctional relationships, low self-esteem, inability to focus and concentrate, and so on.  

Anger produces a physiological response in the body: your heart rate increases, blood rushes to your limbs, and a rush of hormones such as adrenaline increases the energy necessary for action.   This physiological response creates tension, and letting anger out as aggression can momentarily provide some release from said tension.  However, an aggressive response rarely solves the underlying problem; instead, it will likely escalate the situation and lead to even more anger, tension, and aggression. 

The Sedona Method can help you defuse the anger caused by any given situation in which you feel that you’ve been wronged, taken advantage of, or otherwise treated unfairly in some way.  By lessening the intensity of your anger you will put yourself in a position from which you can act in a constructive and assertive manner, and communicate your feelings and needs effectively, instead of lashing out at others and acting in a way that does not serve you well. 

At the other extreme, some people cope with anger by suppressing it.  They simply try to focus on something else and hope that by not thinking about it, the anger will go away.  Anger that is not allowed outward expression turns inward.  This response to anger can cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or even severe depression.  In addition, many people who suppress their anger tend to have addictive behaviors, such as overeating, gambling, drinking, and so on.  They also tend to be moody and have a low tolerance for even minor irritations. 

If you have a tendency to suppress anger, The Sedona Method can help you by teaching you how to release the anger instead of burying it.  Pretending that the anger is not there is a form of resistance toward the anger.  Hale Dwoskin, one of the founders of the Sedona Method, has the following to say about releasing negative emotions: “The instant you stop resisting any negative emotion . . . is the instant it gives up its hold over you.  So, welcome the feeling and then let it go. This frees up space for you to begin feeling good -- feeling the peace that you truly are.”

There are many ways in which to diffuse anger such as unplugging yourself from the situation, going for a walk, reframing the situation, engineering some small triumph for yourself to lift your mood, and so on.  Coupling these techniques with The Sedona Method will help dissolve your anger and will allow you to free yourselffrom its negative side effects, including mental upset, physical disturbances, and tensions in your relationships.  At the same time, once you learn how to release the tension that accompanies anger you will be in a better position to respond to any anger-producing situation in a calm manner that will help you resolve the situation, instead of either ignoring it or making it worse.